Post by shieru on Aug 31, 2016 5:59:53 GMT
From what I've learned about human psychology, parents seem to play a major role in the development of personality. Those people who raise us teach us lessons about what it means to be human, about trust and connection, language and culture, what is and is not real, and help us to build the original foundation of how we perceive the world and ourselves.
Being that parent's roles are so pivotal, I thought our concepts of our parents - how we relate/d to them and how they helped to shape us - would be a very interesting topic to start a discussion around! I'm especially curious about what cognitive types you think your parents are/were, and how this effected the chemistry between you and them. What have you learned from your parents? Have you looked up to them, or found yourself at odds with their perspectives, or perhaps some other reaction?
Being that parent's roles are so pivotal, I thought our concepts of our parents - how we relate/d to them and how they helped to shape us - would be a very interesting topic to start a discussion around! I'm especially curious about what cognitive types you think your parents are/were, and how this effected the chemistry between you and them. What have you learned from your parents? Have you looked up to them, or found yourself at odds with their perspectives, or perhaps some other reaction?
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As for me, my father is a SiFe, and my mother was a FeSi. I've always had a very friendly, mutually supportive relationship with my father. While he tends to have more conventional views than I do, and a different perspective on reality (he's Christian while I'm Atheist, etc.) we've always respected one another's views and directions, and often have pretty deep discussions about psychology and life in general. I think my father has always inspired me to be tolerant and open-minded when it comes to approaching others. He's also inspired a deep respect for nature in me, which has been a part of my ethical outlook since I was a kid (hence my belief in animal rights and preservation of natural wonders :3).
The experience I had with my mother was pretty much the opposite We couldn't have been any more different from each other, and since she made it her mission to align the world (especially me) to her outlook, the conflict could never be overcome. I should mention that my mother suffered from paranoid schizophrenia that was untreated.. and so relationship with her was difficult regardless of her type. But added to her irrational and sometimes violent outbursts, her resolute, condemning Fe, dogmatic fixation on her ethical paradigm, and intense demonstrative energy overwhelmed me to the point that I ended up disassociating from her completely. I perceived her more as a phenomenon like a hurricane than a person, and I couldn't tolerate being around her for long. She taught me a lot though. Because of what I went through with her, I developed a high tolerance for people of all dispositions. I learned how to have a greater degree of empathy for others, and to see offensive behavior as a sign of suffering rather than something that one should be held accountable for. I learned to expect the unexpected, and so nothing is shocking to me. And because of the resulting damage left in me from our interaction, I learned how to heal the mind, soul and body. Ultimately, she helped me to reach a deep understanding of myself and of humanity as a whole.
The experience I had with my mother was pretty much the opposite We couldn't have been any more different from each other, and since she made it her mission to align the world (especially me) to her outlook, the conflict could never be overcome. I should mention that my mother suffered from paranoid schizophrenia that was untreated.. and so relationship with her was difficult regardless of her type. But added to her irrational and sometimes violent outbursts, her resolute, condemning Fe, dogmatic fixation on her ethical paradigm, and intense demonstrative energy overwhelmed me to the point that I ended up disassociating from her completely. I perceived her more as a phenomenon like a hurricane than a person, and I couldn't tolerate being around her for long. She taught me a lot though. Because of what I went through with her, I developed a high tolerance for people of all dispositions. I learned how to have a greater degree of empathy for others, and to see offensive behavior as a sign of suffering rather than something that one should be held accountable for. I learned to expect the unexpected, and so nothing is shocking to me. And because of the resulting damage left in me from our interaction, I learned how to heal the mind, soul and body. Ultimately, she helped me to reach a deep understanding of myself and of humanity as a whole.